LIKE, FOLLOW, EMAIL ARMENIAN CHRONICLES HOMENEWSFEATURESARTS & ENTERTAINMENTTHE SOUJOUKHOPINIONBLOGSMORE... My Life As a Gay Armenian by: SHANT JALTOROSSIAN shantj91@gmail.com Growing up in an Armenian household was not easy for me...for the obvious reasons. As a gay Armenian man, I often feel that I do not have an outlet to properly express myself. While there are certainly exceptions, the Armenian society at large turns a blind eye to the reality that there are LGBT Armenians all around them. I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more. While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh? Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life. While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum. While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”? The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life. If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians. CREATE A FREE WEBSITEPOWERED BY START YOUR OWN FREE WEBSITE A surprisingly easy drag & drop site creator. Learn more. LIKE, FOLLOW, EMAIL ARMENIAN CHRONICLES HOMENEWSFEATURESARTS & ENTERTAINMENTTHE SOUJOUKHOPINIONBLOGSMORE... My Life As a Gay Armenian by: SHANT JALTOROSSIAN shantj91@gmail.com Growing up in an Armenian household was not easy for me...for the obvious reasons. As a gay Armenian man, I often feel that I do not have an outlet to properly express myself. While there are certainly exceptions, the Armenian society at large turns a blind eye to the reality that there are LGBT Armenians all around them. I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more. While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh? Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life. While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum. While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”? The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life. If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians. CREATE A FREE WEBSITEPOWERED BY START YOUR OWN FREE WEBSITE A surprisingly easy drag & drop site creator. Learn more. 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My Life As a Gay Armenian
by: SHANT JALTOROSSIAN
shantj91@gmail.com
Growing up in an Armenian household was not easy for me...for the obvious reasons. As a gay Armenian man, I often feel that I do not have an outlet to properly express myself. While there are certainly exceptions, the Armenian society at large turns a blind eye to the reality that there are LGBT Armenians all around them.
I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more.
While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh?
Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life.
While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum.
While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”?
The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life.
If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians.
I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more.
While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh?
Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life.
While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum.
While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”?
The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life.
If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians.
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My Life As a Gay Armenian
by: SHANT JALTOROSSIAN
shantj91@gmail.com
Growing up in an Armenian household was not easy for me...for the obvious reasons. As a gay Armenian man, I often feel that I do not have an outlet to properly express myself. While there are certainly exceptions, the Armenian society at large turns a blind eye to the reality that there are LGBT Armenians all around them.
I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more.
While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh?
Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life.
While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum.
While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”?
The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life.
If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians.
I often wonder just how many of the Armenians that I have met were gay, but were in hiding. Perhaps due to unrealistic expectations, many LGBT Armenians remain in the closet, mostly to the detriment of their well-being. LGBT Armenians are often reserved and do not make a stand on the matter. I have always been one of those quiet, brooding types – no more.
While I have watched non-Armenian gay friends live happy, fulfilling lives out in the open, I have sat on the sidelines. Why shouldn't I aim for the same sort of life? I, for one, have thus far only come out to cousins and friends, but not the elders. Well, the cat's out of the bag, huh?
Growing up, I always felt just a bit “different.” I could never quite figure out what it was, but I never really fit in with others. I did have friends, but I was always the awkward introvert in the group. Sexuality – of any sort – didn't really even cross my mind until sometime in high school. There wasn't ever an epiphany; I just knew after a while. I didn't really come to terms with it until sometime in college, so in a way, I've lagged behind others. That said, everyone has a different experience with understanding who they are. What really matters is how those around you respond to the realities of your life.
While I cannot necessarily speak for the Armenian society at large, I can draw inferences based off the community in the greater Los Angeles area. Many Armenians – the traditional ones, anyway– have ingrained notions of heteronormativity. To them, any deviation from the norm is an aberration and to be denounced. Every Armenian man is expected to marry a nice Armenian woman, whether or not they actually want to. Then, the woman in this relationship is expected to bear grandchildren and be happy about it. This culture propagates a “one size fits all” mentality that everyone will do what their parents did, ad infinitum.
While most of my family never makes the slightest mention of LGBT topics, there are exceptions. For one, I cannot even begin to count the number of times a specific relative has made an asinine gay joke while I leer at him from across the room. Is it malice? Playful mischief? A misguided attempt of some sort? Regardless, there needs to be an understanding that by speaking ill of others, one cannot expect civility against them. Whatever happened to “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”?
The intersection of Armenian society and LGBT culture is a complicated one. I felt compelled to become more open and true to myself after attending this year's LA Pride, where I came across a booth promoting GALAS – the Gay and Lesbian Armenian Society. It felt good to see fellow gay Armenians speaking freely about who they are. I was doubly proud that day – as a gay man, and as an Armenian. Admittedly, I am not a member of GALAS, but they have inspired me to be more open in my life.
If you are an LGBT Armenian, speak up; we're here to listen. No matter how often your aunt pesters you about “not having a girlfriend” or “settling down and having babies,” know this: you are who you are, and there's no changing that. Take pride in yourself, in your identity, and your heritage. If you are an ally, we thank you. If you are a bigot, I hope that one day you will realize that your words can leave behind irreversible emotional damage. Put aside your petty issues, stop perpetuating hatred, and learn to love your fellow Armenians.
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